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Learn to love your body: 8 Tips

Love the body you have

It’s funny when I think back to my very first pole class.  In preparation I shaved my legs, applied fake tan, and rocked up with my knee length shorts ready to go! I look back now and laugh. Ahh how times have changed. These days I’m in booty shorts feeling 100% comfortable in my own skin.  My journey has taught me to have complete body confidence. I would like to share by top tips to help you feel completely comfortable within yourself.

Happiness comes from within

Yes, I know it’s a complete cliché right? But it’s also true. We’ve all worked hard to achieve body goals, whether it’s dropping fat percentage or trying to sculpt our abs. But have you ever noticed that once you’ve achieved one goal, there’s always another one you aim for?

Stop pressuring yourself and your body. Instead, focus on being as healthy and happy as you can. Nourish your body with what it needs, and look after your mind. You’ll soon feel happier, whether you have a washboard stomach or not.


Re-think your social media

Is social media having a positive impact on you? It’s important to remember that people only want to show their best side on social media, and sometimes what you see may not be entirely realistic. We need to be careful not to compare our worst bits to the ‘perfection’ we see on Instagram or Facebook.

Only compare yourself to you. If you’re finding that social media is pulling you down, take a break and focus on your body and mind instead. Draw on elements of your life that inspire and motivate you, and if this isn’t social media, cut down on your daily use.

Focus on your best bits

There should be parts of you that you love. What do people compliment you on? Perhaps your smile brings happiness to others, or your beautiful curves, or maybe it’s your long legs attract attention?

If you feel you don’t receive compliments, I challenge you to look around and take better note of what others are saying. When someone gives you a compliment ,I want you to own it Sister!!! Don’t brush off kind words; accept them and take them on board.

Focus on the parts of you that you love. Look in the mirror and refuse to focus on your least favourite bits, instead seek out your favourite features. Treat your body with kindness, respect and love – every single part of you!

Treat yourself like a best friend

We often treat others completely different to how we treat ourselves. With our girlfriends, we are loving and kind, but to ourselves we are often our own worst enemy.

Change this behaviour and imagine you’re your own best friend. Talk up your features and refuse to focus on your flaws. When you have negative thoughts, stop and ask yourself, ‘would you say that to a friend you love?’ If not, don’t say it! The way we think and talk creates our own reality, and it’s time to embrace the beautiful person you truly are.

Love your imperfections

Our imperfections are what make us who we are. Embrace them! Own them! Knowing that there is no one in the world like you. You are unique and authentic. Get in touch with how you are feeling on the inside, and celebrate your individuality. To have wonderful and healthy relationships, we must first learn to truly love who we are.

Focus on gratitude

Are you a mum with stretch marks from carrying your beautiful baby? It’s time to own those tiger stripes. Admire how incredible our bodies are and what they allow us to do.

Appreciate and love that your body has enabled you to create such an incredible human being. This tells your own special and unique story. Treat your body with kindness and acknowledge the beauty from your pregnancy.

Do what feels good 

Are there certain things that make you feel great? Perhaps popping on a little black dress or some sexy new underwear? Or maybe it’s getting a haircut? At Studio Exclusive we believe the most important thing is finding what makes you feel amazing, and then finding time to schedule this into your weekly routine. You are absolutely worth it.

4 things I learnt about myself teaching women to Pole Dance

After almost a decade of Pole Dancing and over 8 years of teaching, I’ve learnt many life lessons from teaching women to Pole Dance. I recently wrote a gratitude list of all the positive experiences I’ve had over the years and what I’d learnt about myself in the process. Here are the 4 big ones…

People wont always remember what you say but they will remember how you made them feel
When ladies start classes or even walk into the studio for the first time they are very vulnerable. Women go through so many stages in life in terms of hormones, life stages, body shape and emotional state. I learnt very quickly as an instructor that my words are incredibly powerful. What we say to someone can give them hope and can help them heal. Our words either have a positive impact on others or they can do the opposite. Our words inspire others so choose yours well. I’m proud to say that I offer a safe haven for every woman that walks into the studio, or finds a place on my team.

Confidence and happiness are the sexiest things a woman can wear

I believe I was put on this planet to help women build confidence, that’s my gig. This is from my own journey. I’ve been on the other side and I’m confident when I say we all know how amazing life feels when you are confident and happy. I’ve had the pleasure of training some incredible women who truly embrace their confidence regardless of body shape or position in life.

Confidence isn’t related to a body shape or position in life, confidence comes from within and it’s dammed sexy!! Life is about embracing our imperfections and accepting and loving every single part of ourselves.

Appreciate the gift of your body
Our bodies are incredible, wonders of nature and we tend to take them for granted. We are too quick to point out our flaws or what we can’t do instead of focusing on what we can do (and what we are amazing at). We tend to look at our own bodies and be so critical, we see them every day and we are so quick to point out our flaws. Often those around us can see our beauty or strengths that we cannot or perhaps refuse to see ourselves. We are beautiful in our own unique way and its time we all opened our eyes and saw this beauty.

Your body can withstand almost anything, its your mind you have to convince
I know what it takes to walk into a pole dancing studio for the very first time. I was there myself over 10 years ago. I’ve made it my personal responsibility to look after every new lady that walks through our studio doors. That responsibility made me think about every action, statement or passing comment I make. I know doing something for the very first time is often pushing the comfort zone in a massive way for our ladies. This has helped me become consciously aware of the impact I have on others and helped me to appreciate that this is what I stand for. I stand for women of all walks of life. All ages, all body shapes and all nationalities.

Peta xx